Nomi, thanks so much for setting this up!! It's gorgeous and so official looking!! I'm on page 62 now and still loving this book. The next subtitle I'm looking at is "States permeate all life." So true!! Can't wait to dive in and learn how to better observe my "states" instead of being hijacked by them. Sometimes I get hijacked and still observe, but I'm still hijacked. A weird "state" in itself!
Here is what I wrote on Amazon: My friend Dr. Keith Witt wrote a fantastic book that I will be happy to promote through my newsletters and facebook page. I couldn't wait for it to come out in print, and here it is.Keith makes a clear case from an integral perspective why healthy relationships are so important for our own well-being and to make the world a better place for all of us.What I like most about his latest book is how he covers four essential dimensions of our human experience, various human capacities, and personality types, and integrates them with his vast personal wisdom and experience as a therapist with the latest insights from neurobiology, social research and entertaining stories.For me, this book is the most pragmatic/practical application of the Integral Model that I have seen to date. It is easy and entertaining to read, and can be instantly applied to our day to day life, including love relationships and work. It inspires to read more about the many sources he provides. If millions would read his book (which I hope) our world would be a better place immediately. I will certainly use this book in my own life and recommend it to my family, friends, colleagues and followers. Thank you for such a wonderful gift to me, humanity and your contribution to furthering the Integral vision. It is an honor to endorse this book.Below are a few notes that I took while reading the manuscript:Keith has the courage to make value judgments and reminds us that there is no good unless we do it.Keith shows us step by step how our brains can be rewired to move from clueless to mindless, to mindful and, what he calls, dialed-in to live happier, more responsible and sustainable lives and relationships through mindful meditation practice.For my taste, Keith has the priorities right; dialed-in sex, intimacy, parenting, habits, self-care, work and spirituality as the foundation to co-create a sustainable and peaceful future for all humanity.Behavior changes brains white fatty myelin.He recognizes how everything is relationships.He uses types, such as the Enneagram and feminine/masculine polaritiesHe touches on growth, fixed mindsets and states of consciousness.He uses language that sticks, like Yum/Yuck
Mindful awareness is being aware with acceptance and caring intent, on purpose, with compassionate judgment, in the present moment.Dialed-in Integral mindful awareness is mindful awareness guided by the elegant, perspectives of Integral understanding.Attunement to self and others forms a foundation for dialed-in, and can be practiced all the time.Beautiful, good, and true are three irreducible validity standards we use constantly.Each person is a unique type, but we share type qualities like masculine/feminine with similar others, helping us understand our similarities and differences.States of consciousness rise, fall, and undulate constantly throughout life - especially defensive states, and states of healthy response to the present moment.The book is full of research notes and wisdom. Stunningly entertaining.He ties in many insights with cutting edge Neuroscience.We all exist at different levels of maturity on multiple developmental lines.A practical introduction to integral without using integral lingo that can be applied to our lives immediatelyHSD causes cells to hang on to the fat they've got and store more fat - especially in the belly and hips. This is why dieting rarely works - it's stressful to limit food, stress increases cortisol and HSD, and our bodies end up holding on to, and storing more fat.Keith's five tips for healthy relationships:1. Is there erotic polarity between this person and me? Is there a sexual spark?2. Does this person stay healthy physically and psychologically?3. If we were in a relationship and had conflict, would this person be able and willing to do what it takes to get back to love?4. Would this person be a superior parent?5. Does this person live life from a sense of deep, even sacred, purpose? If I do, do they (or would they) sense it and admire it in me?He explorers, builders, directors, and negotiators and how they are compatible/incompatible.By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll become happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. - SocratesOur ability to be intimate grows as we mature.In one study Keith mentions that a thousand people were asked if they'd ever been dumped by someone they really loved, or had dumped someone who really loved them. Over ninety percent said, "yes" to both questions. Committed intimacy always involves some suffering. When it comes to love, we get the bad with the good.He so admires couples who keep improving love - and transcendent love as an ideal is ubiquitous.If we don't get better at recognizing good partners, being a good partner, and growing in relationships, we're at risk to be overwhelmed by our social/sexual drives.I hope I have whetted your appetite to order this life-changing book NOW.
Wow, Martin! This is a gorgeous summary, pointing out some of the relationship highlights of Integral Mindfulness. I especially appreciate 3 and 4-- getting back to love--so important!! We all lose it sometimes--the question is how fast can we get back? and what kind of parent would this person make? I had thought I was too old for the last question, but when I read Witt's reasoning, I realized he was right. The way we treat our children is a measure of how we offer (and fail to offer) our love.